Selected “Snippets” on Love, Laughter, and Life

You may have heard me say that in our family, we have a ritual of sharing “good things” at bedtime…simply a way to connect, reflect, and focus on the positive. Here are some of my “good things” from last week:

  • Last Thursday evening the overheated, dry Dallas skies suddenly turned cloudy, breezy, with the smell of rain. After dinner, we all rushed out into the driveway to do a rain dance, chanting, stomping, and playing tambourines and kazoos – anything to bring on a much-needed shower! We chanted, “Water-Spirit, send us rain!” and sang, “Rain, rain, we need rain, all the plants need some rain!” Like magic, it worked! (at least for a few minutes) So we set our instruments down and played and danced, triumphantly cooling off in the fresh sprinkles. The drivers passing by on their way home from work, windows down, celebrated with us – honking, waving, giving us a “thumbs up”! We noticed some other children down the street enjoying the rain, too, so we wandered down for an impromptu neighborhood rain-play-date, re-meeting friends that we haven’t seen outside for months now. That was our “family play” for the night, and it was definitely a “good” thing!
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  • After bringing Ellie home from school one day, she and I took the time to snuggle on the living room couch and chat. It was really good listening time for me while she got to tell me about her day. She’s only 2, but she certainly has things to say…about painting, and snack, and children who are sad because they missed their mommies, about reading the “monkeys on the bed” book, and how so-and-so didn’t want to share the blocks or got a boo-boo on the playground. And then, to show that she really is learning this art of conversation, she asks cheerfully, “How was your day, Mommy?”  Wow, I could get used to this! (But then brother comes in covered in paint and glue, wanting to join the conversation, and sweet little Ellie shouts at him while pushing him away, “No brother, don’t talk!”. So, we’re still mstering on the subtleties of polite conversation…)
Funny things from the week:
  • Grandpa GareBear (a former English teacher) is proud when I call to brag on Ellie’s good grammar. She was getting over a cold and ear infection, so I asked her, “Ellie, how are you feeling?“, and she replied, “I’m feeling well, Mommy.” I honestly had to giggle, and she had no idea how precious she was!
  • MJ, while crafting, said, “I like to add a little glitter to my belly button!” Who doesn’t, really?
  • Ellie, in the car with the family, suddenly exclaims, “I have nipples!” This brings on a fascinating discussion about how some people have more than 2 nipples, the development of mammary glands in the womb, blah-blah-blah…the true meaning of life…we have such interesting conversations in the car!
  • At Jason’s Deli, the children enjoying the frozen yogurt treat which they earned by eating the healthier food first, MJ says about his ice cream “sculpture”: “Mine looks like the Grand Canyon!” Ellie, trying to echo big brother says, “Mine looks like a green onion!” Mommy thinking, “You both look like you need a bath!
  • As I was rocking Ellie at bedtime one night, I told her that my “good thing” was right now, rocking her right and sharing that special time with her, talking, singing, rhyming and being silly with her. Then it was her turn to tell me her “good thing”. I figured she’d say something meaningful like “reading with you”, or “having lunch with GareBear and Beffa after church”, or “having family music time with you and brother.” But, continuing her silliness, and ensuring that I don’t take life too seriously, she replied by saying with a straight face, “My good thing is putting my finger in your nose…” Well,  you know what happened after that.

Perspective Moment this week:

  • Dustin, as an OB/ Gyn attending at Parkland Hospital (the largest county hospital in Texas), has a plethora of stories and anecdotes – some of them unbelievably  hilarious (and by that I mean, you would not believe some of these stories and situations actually happened), some of them heart-wrenching, some of them maddening, but almost all of them leave me with a sense of perspective about my comfortable life circumstances and the health of my family. The other night one of the rape exams he did was on a 15-year-old girl whose mother was in jail, accused of forcing her daughter into prostitution for money. Another rape exam was on a 14-year-old girl whose parents didn’t seem to mind that she was out at a 20-year-old man’s apartment at 2am. He said simply, “There are some really bad parents out there.” I guess I shouldn’t feel too guilty about feeding my kids Wendy’s tonight. Most of us really are “good enough” parents, and that’s what every kid deserves. You love your kids, so give yourself and the guilt a break.

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